If you argue for your limitations, you get to keep them…

I was recently at an interesting class.  A participant was asking a question about a block in her life and kept cutting off the facilitator who was trying to lead her to the answer, because she wanted to tell her story. The co-facilitator told the other facilitator:
"Wait, don’t interrupt – she’s trying to tell you a story to justify her limitations!" He proceeded to sit down cross-legged on the stage in front of her, cradled his chin in his hands and said "Ok, tell me a story." It was refreshing and hilarious.

Published in: on November 19, 2008 at 1:50 pm  Comments (2)  

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  1. I have mixed feelings about this. Since I wasn’t there, I have no idea what this woman was saying or how she was behaving.

    Maybe she was a negative narcissist trying to monopolize the seminar with focus on her problems.

    Or, maybe she really needed to be heard, even if the facilitator and everyone else knew where it was going, and what the facilitator did was really rude and dismissive.

  2. I agree with Jill – that was very rude of the co-facilitator. Sometimes there’s a time to teach and sometimes it’s a time to listen. And some people really do have limitations, for whatever reason.
    “You’re trying to justify your limitations!”
    “You’re trying to make excuses for being fat!”
    These sound a lot alike to me. Did anyone else make a connection here?


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