My Mom sent me this e-mail yesterday:
“I just read the blogs from Jezebel – Imagine all the women out there that you made feel good today ~ I am Sooooooo proud to be your Mom, you’re an amazing woman and I just love your positive attitude to all people, with all the negativity in the world I’m sure glad you’re in it~Love you to the Nth degree times infintity to the power of eternity and LOTS more”
My Mom has always been this awesome.
And trust me when I tell you that it wasn’t easy. I was a “highly intelligent but difficult” child per my school records. As she has told me any number of times I was born 4o years old, a combination of Lisa Simpson, Stewie Griffin, Hermione Granger, and Sheldon from Big Bang Theory. It seems that the same independence, veracity, and outspokenness that we admire in adults is somewhat less endearing in children.
I can’t even count the number of times my Mom went to bat for me when I was a kid – teacher’s who didn’t know how to handle me, a bitter band director who tried to hold me down, people telling me that something I was doing was impossible and I should quit. My mom is a natural peace keeper but you could not mess with her children without having to deal with her. I remember standing in the principal’s office while Mrs. Goggins said “Your daughter insists on correcting me in front of the class.” Mom looked at her completely deadpan and said “Are you wrong?”. Mrs. Goggins exasperatedly replied “That’s NOT the point.” My Mom turned to the principal and said “This is a school, right? Isn’t learning the correct information exactly the point?”
My Mom is just amazing and I know how lucky I am to have her. She is the reason that I’m able to do the self-esteem and body image work that I do, she’s the reason why I’ve always been certain that I can succeed at anything I want to do, she is the (not so) secret of my success.
So, if you are a Mom, today might be a good day to really think about the lessons that you are teaching your kids about their self-esteem and their bodies. Lessons that you teach directly, indirectly (How do you talk about your body? What magazines do you have laying around the house?) and that you allow others to teach them all count. This is a huge thanks to all of the Mothers out there who are trying hard to raise children with high self-esteem and good body image in a culture that tries hard to make that impossible.
Since I know that she reads this blog I just want to say Happy Mother’s Day to the Best Mom in the Whole World. I love you to infinity to the power of infinity and LOTS more!