Comments on: The Underpants Rule and You

By: bettielee

bettielee — Tue, 12 Feb 2013 05:06:56 +0000

*movie trailer voice* Imagine a world….where everyone took care of their own underpants……

By: joystjohn

joystjohn — Fri, 13 Jul 2012 19:15:57 +0000

underpants.

By: danceswithfat

danceswithfat — Tue, 10 Jul 2012 16:40:57 +0000

Hi Crina,

Thank you for the comment, for being respectful and for using the underpants rule!! I have done NIA, a really good friend of mine is a teacher. I really enjoyed doing it – it’s definitely the opposite of the rigid and structured way that I’m used to approaching dance and that’s really cool and I loved the focus on movement and the respect of bodies – super cool. Thanks for the suggestion!!

~Ragen

By: Crina

Crina — Tue, 10 Jul 2012 14:31:33 +0000

Have you tried Nia? I am not saying that you should…I love the underpants rule…but I was just thinking that you might love it. Nia is about dancing and accepting yourself and others…enjoying your body and respecting it however it might be or not be shaped. Without should’s or must’s…your way…as your body allows it… I discovered it a few years back and I love it… Pure application of the underpants rule to movement… Respect without judgement. Love and acceptance.

By: Jen

Jen — Thu, 05 Jul 2012 22:29:05 +0000

I have problems with this myself but the reverse of what most would think. Since I have discovered the HAES community I find that when my friends bring up dieting (there is one in particular that it drives me nuts b/c his mom is always “suggesting” and researching lap band for him and he is constantly talking about when he gets insurance then he is going to have the surgery done. His mom in fact had gastric bypass done several years ago and she has kept the weight off but the reasoning for both of them was not to gain health as much as it was vanity – after all her motto is if it ain’t broke fix it before it is, but I digress) I hop on my bandwagon and start preaching about HAES which I know doesn’t necessarily give me much credibility but still. I want him (in particular) to know that it is not about the appearance and that just b/c you lose the weight doesn’t guarantee happiness and it kills me when he tells me about his mom and how he feels about the way he looks.
I realize that I am breaking the underpants rule there but its frustrating to say the least when I see how wonderful he is as he already is but society (and his mother) are telling him otherwise!

By: Jennifer Mavrick Ingram

Jennifer Mavrick Ingram — Thu, 05 Jul 2012 14:24:39 +0000

So elegant, and yet slightly crass. Just my style. I am a therapist and teach people about the value-what-I-value thinking error every day. I usually use a metaphor about how I fold towels or how I think stop signs are the most important traffic control device. But yours is so much more fun, I intend to pirate it. And to tell people where I found it!

By: ninafel

ninafel — Sat, 30 Jun 2012 19:03:28 +0000

F*cktheDiets!, do you live in the San Francisco Bay Area? If so, I think I know that guy! He used to be my neighbor. He calls himself “Dress” and he’s straight!

By: Maddi Klein

Maddi Klein — Fri, 22 Jun 2012 18:09:26 +0000

YES.

By: Tara

Tara — Mon, 18 Jun 2012 05:44:12 +0000

A gracious reply Twistie and you make a good point regarding civil rights incorporating all peoples right to respect and safety to our *tinana (bodies) and * wairua (spirit) as both can be broken.

*Te Reo Maori – The indigenous language of Aotearoa (New Zealand)

By: Twistie

Twistie — Sun, 17 Jun 2012 18:22:38 +0000

Juliet, I’m truly sorry for what you’ve been through. I wish you all the best in your recovery and in your future.

And obviously I’m not Regan. I can’t speak for her directly. On the other hand, I can say for myself that I would consider domestic abuse, child abuse, and rape very much civil rights violations. These acts of violence and terror are used to control groups of people or individuals against their own best interests, and that’s about as much of a civil rights violation as I can imagine.

My guess is that most of the people reading this blog on a regular basis would agree with me on that.

I hope you’ll stick around for more of the conversation, Juliet. We sometimes express ourselves giddily, but we take the right to personal safety very, very seriously.