One thing that fat people often tell me makes them uncomfortable is the idea that they take up too much space. Here’s what I think about that. I think that our bodies take up just the right amount of space, whatever size they are. If they get bigger or smaller they still take up just the right amount of space. Because they are our BODIES. Tall people don’t take up too much space. People in wheelchairs don’t take up too much space. Fat people don’t take up too much space. If you are on a crowded train and you sit with your legs completely splayed out sprawling across as much space as you can, then an argument can be made that you are taking up too much space, but it is impossible that your body takes up too much space just being fat.
There are things in the world that are made to fit only people of a certain size but that doesn’t make all other bodies wrong. Tall people struggle to fit into planes but we don’t suggest that they try to get shorter – we say that the plane isn’t made to suit their bodies. As a fat person I feel the same way. If I go into a restaurant and I’m not comfortable in their booths or the arms on their chairs pinch I have a few options. I can say nothing and suffer through, or I can leave immediately. I can let the management know about the problem and give them a chance to accomodate me, or I can just decide that if they wanted my business they would have made different choices and so leave and never come back.
Regardless of what I choose the problem resides with the booths and the chairs and not with my body. I take up just the right amount of space and I believe that you do too.
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