First of all, thank you so much for the great response so far to the Better Than the Bullies campaign. On to today’s blog:
I have had just about enough of this whole “Save the Fatties” campaign. Jillian Michaels says that it’s ok to verbally and emotionally abuse us because she’s “saving our lives”. Doctors say that it’s ok to ignore our symptoms (sprained wrists, broken bones, rashes, intense back pain, cancer) and treat our body size because “no matter what’s wrong with us we’ll be healthier if our bodies are smaller”. Perfect strangers feel like they should question our food choices, make assumptions and comments about our habits, our health, our fitness for parenthood and politics because it’s “for our own good”. People at the gym, including employees, assume that we are beginner exercisers and encourage us in our quest for weight loss without bothering to ask us how long we’ve worked out or if we’re even trying to lose weight because they want to “encourage us”. People actually think it’s ok to ask “Should we accept obesity?” Seriously. As if fat bodies are someone else’s to accept or reject.
This has got to stop. If you do one or more of the things that I just mentioned, then this is for you:
This is not a tree, I am not a kitten, you are not a firefighter come to climb your little ladder and rescue me. My fat body is not a message to you that I am somehow incapable of taking care of myself or making decisions about my health. The only thing that you can tell from looking at my body is what size I am, and what your prejudices and stereotypes about my size are. Deal with them or don’t, that’s up to you; but I have no obligation to be the pillow that you beat with a tennis racket trying to work out your issues – trust me when I tell you that “emotional punching bag” is not just another free service I offer.
I am perfectly capable of making decisions about myself, my food, my exercise, and my health, thank you. If I want your opinion I swear you will be among the very first to know. I can tell you right now that I have no interest in your advocacy, saving me, or commenting without invitation. You and your grossly over-exaggerated sense of self-importance need to climb down off your little ladder and go somewhere that is else, you are not welcome here.
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