One of the less fun experiences that I have had, being a fatty who talks about practicing Health at Every Size, is that everyone and their mama seems to feel the need to try to figure out why I’m fat.
If I’m drinking a Mountain Dew someone will suggest to me that I cut out sodas.
If I’m eating mashed potatoes someone will suggest that I cut out carbs.
If I’m strength training someone will suggest that I need to do more cardio.
If I’m doing cardio someone will suggest that I need to do more strength training.
They will insist that I need to produce a food log.
And on and on and on. People are unable to accept the fact that people come in different sizes so they have to find a reason that I’m the size I am. Perhaps because they want to believe that being fat could never happen to them, or they’ve bought into the theory of calories in/calories out which is predicated upon the belief that the body is as simple as a lawnmower and that base metabolic rate is simple to calculate.
When people do this, they are also making the faulty assumption that I haven’t already tried all of these things and more to lose weight. I’ve been there, done that diet, and burned the t-shirt because, just like almost everyone who loses weight, I gained it back and struggle to get my weight stable. Since I started Health at Every Size my weight has been stable for several years and that’s a first for me and I’m quite happy about it.
People look at me and make guesses (typically incorrect) about what I eat, how much I eat, and how much I exercise. When I talk about it they call me a liar, as if to say that they are a better witness to my experience than I am. They are not.
It’s nobody’s business what I do for my health and if I tell someone that I am happy with my food and exercise choices then the only thing left for them to say is “cool”.
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