This Memorial Day weekend in the US, families will gather to thank our Veterans. Those family BBQs often come with an unhealthy side of body shaming and food policing. If you’re headed to a family feast for the holiday, here’s an oldie but goodie post to help you through:
Your body is amazing – it breathes for you, pumps blood around all the time and does all kinds of cool things. It deserves respect and admiration. If people don’t recognize that, it’s 100% their problem and a big flaming sack of not yours.
Everything that people say to you is a reflection of where they are in their life – if people are engaging in body shaming, food policing or other inappropriate behavior, remember that it’s about them, not about you. You do not have to take it personally or internalize it.
That doesn’t mean that you have to allow it to happen either. You decide how people treat you and then you teach them how to treat you that way. Don’t be afraid to set boundaries and consequences and then follow through. It’s ok to stand up for yourself, it’s ok to leave the room, it’s ok to leave the State. It’s also ok to just get through it, but if you take that path may I suggest that you spend a lot of energy making sure that you aren’t internalizing those messages.
Good intentions do not negate bad behavior unless you decide that they do.
People are allowed to be on diets, but if they feel the need to be incredibly vocal about it consider that they may have some issues that they are dealing with. Again, this is a big flaming sack of not your problem. Other people’s choices do not invalidate your choices, and vice versa. Some dieters have a hard time with this – they need everyone to buy into dieting so that they can feel comfortable about their decision. That doesn’t obligate you to buy in.
Once more with feeling: Your body is amazing – it breathes for you, pumps blood around all the time and does all kinds of cool things. It deserves respect and admiration. If people don’t recognize that, it’s 100% their problem and a big flaming sack of not yours.
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