I got a bunch of hate mail today calling me “irresponsible” for writing what I do. I was going to blog about it and realized that I had already. Here’s an oldie but goodie about how my readers are not idiots:
When people disagree with my blog, there are three main points that they tend to make:
1. I am a liar. It is impossible to be healthy and obese. I covered that here.
3. It’s fine for me to think what I want (even thought it’s obviously wrong and stupid), but I’m incredibly irresponsible for putting it in a blog because people will read it and choose Health at Every Size like I did and then they’ll die of fatness and it will all be my fault. Oh, where to begin with this one.
The diet industry in this country makes nearly 60 billion dollars a year convincing people they should want to be thin. They are assisted by almost every major news and media outlet buying into the conflation of weight and health and giving us 386,170 negative messages about our bodies every year, along with extraordinarily irresponsible reporting. Then there is the multi-billion dollar beauty industry. Self Magazine put 34 weight loss stories on their cover in 2010 alone. That’s an average of almost 3 cover stories every month for just ONE magazine, and that doesn’t take into account the fact that they choose nearly every model in every picture based on a single standard of beauty . Billions of dollars and billions of work hours going into convincing people that they should want to be thin and that thin and healthy are the same thing.
I am one woman blogging.
What I’m getting at here is that if my message is that much of a threat to the mainstream then I think they should consider how weak their message really is, and whether or not they want to keep pushing that message.
Even more to the point, my readers (with the possible exception of the people who stumble onto this blog and make this kind of comment) are not idiots. They are capable of weighing evidence and making their own decisions.
I can’t even count the number of times I’ve said on this blog that I’m not trying to tell anyone how to live, simply demonstrating an option. People are allowed to make choices that are different than your choices or my choices, and that in no way invalidates your choices or my choices. We are all the boss of our own underpants, and we are not the boss of anyone else’s underpants. Why everyone except these commenters is able to grasp that I will never know.
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