Weight Loss as Revenge?

You Forgot Your BullshitIn response to my piece about those clickbait “nobody could believe what happened next” videos (where the only thing that happens is that a person who isn’t stereotypically beautiful is talented) I heard a lot of something that has now become a familiar refrain for people who want to find a way to bully me into weight loss.

They say “Wouldn’t losing weight be the best revenge?” I’ve seen it on talk show episodes where people who were bullies for their appearance and have snice dedicated considerable time, energy, and money, to becoming closer to the stereotype of beauty “confront” their bullies and demand to be acknowledged for the change they made.

While people are allowed to do whatever they want, this, to me, is no kind of revenge.  This is spending a ton of time, energy, and money to give the bullies exactly what they wanted, and then asking for their approval.  It’s like saying “give the bullies your lunch money, that’ll show ’em!”

We don’t owe our bullies anything, least of all manipulation of our bodies.  Oppression takes a lot of different forms, and oppression against people who are believed to be able to move out of an oppressed group often leads to people feeling vindicated in their suggestion that the best way to solve social stigma is for stigmatized people to change ourselves.

As a queer woman I’ve been told that if I don’t like being the victim of homophobia I should date a dude. As a fat woman I’ve been told that if I don’t like being the victim of fatphobia I should become thin.  In both cases it doesn’t actually matter if it’s possible to change myself, because the cure for social stigma is ending social stigma – not for stigmatized people to try to squeeze ourselves in a mold someone else created for us.

The problem here isn’t that I’m fat, it’s that people treat me poorly because I’m fat, and I don’t care about revenge, but I do demand social change.

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Published in: on June 17, 2015 at 5:02 am  Comments (28)  

Five Phrases for Size Acceptance Self Defense

Fatphobia ToolboxIn a world that is consumed with “thin” as the ideal of both beauty and health, and where many mistakenly believe that public health should be about making fat people’s bodies the public’s business, practicing Size Acceptance and/or Health at Every Size can mean dealing with conversations that are everything from irritating to downright insulting.

Sometimes I have the time and energy to open a dialog and sometimes I don’t.  Here are five phrases that I keep in my back pocket for when I want to end an inappropriate interaction quickly and move on with my day.

I’m not soliciting opinions about my [body/health/food choices etc.]

I’ve found this super useful when dealing with concern trolling of any kind. It’s not a response that people are expecting, it doesn’t take me down the road of buying into the idea that this person is owed an explanation, and it shuts down further conversation.

Random person at grocery store:  Should you really be buying that ice cream?

Me:  I’m not soliciting opinions about my food choices.

or if the advice is particularly bad, I might add a touch of snark:

Random person at the running track:  At your size, you really shouldn’t run, it’s bad for your knees.

Me:  I’m not actually soliciting bad advice from random strangers.

I can’t imagine why you would think that’s your business. 

Works for concern trolling, works for inappropriate questions, works for people who are under the mistaken belief that my body is somehow their business.

Random person at random place:  You would be so much prettier if you just lost a little weight.

Me:  I can’t imagine why you would think that’s your business.

I have absolutely no interest in weight loss.

Great for whenever somebody assumes that I’m interested in weight loss, or that I’m doing something with weight loss as a goal. I used to add “My body is perfect as it is,” but I found that led to people concern trolling me (ie: Oh, of course you’re beautiful but I’m just worried about your health blah blah blah…) so now I just stick with the single sentence, said with finality.

Random person at a lunch event:  You should try this [insert ridiculous weight loss scam here]

Me:  I have absolutely no interest in weight loss.

Person at the gym:  I see you here all the time, how much weight have you lost so far?

Me:  I don’t weigh myself. I have absolutely no interest in weight loss.

How are your bowel movements?

I use this to respond to especially inappropriate personal questions about my body, food or exercise. When people look confused I often append it with “I thought we were asking each other inappropriate personal questions.”

Person at a restaurant:  Do you need to eat that?

Me:  How are your bowel movements?

Show me your list…

This one is more involved, but I have found it to be worth it.  I developed it specifically for people who give a “But muh tax dollarz”  defense of their weight bigotry.

Some jerk: Your body is my business because muh tax dollarz!

Me:  Show me your list.

SJ: What?

Me:  I need to see the list of things your tax dollars pay for, broken down into things you do and don’t agree with, and the interventions you are involved in for everything you think makes your taxes too high. Otherwise, I’m going to assume that this is a bullshit excuse for engaging in weight bullying and this conversation is over.

Remember that each of us gets to choose how we deal with the oppression we face, sometimes that might mean opening a dialog, and sometimes that might mean ending the conversation and walking away as quickly as possible.  These phrases are just more tools for toolbox.

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Published in: on June 16, 2015 at 7:06 am  Comments (14)  

Everyone Should Have Expected What Happened Next

facepalmYou’ve seen them.  Videos with clickbait titles that say things like “Nobody expected what happened next!”  or “Everyone was shocked by what happened next” when the only thing that happened is that a person who doesn’t meet people’s stereotypes of beauty is talented.  This hit home for me again when someone shared a video of one of my favorite dancers  on Facebook with the comment “Nobody expected what happened next – People didn’t expect much when he walked out, but what happened next shocked everyone!”

Not so much. John and Stephanie are champion dancers, known for being really entertaining. Everyone there who knew them was pretty sure this was going to be amazing. Anyone who didn’t know John, and didn’t expect much because John is fat, is a size bigot who has some issues to work out.

This is super frustrating not just because of the suggestion that a talented fat person is somehow shocking, but because it re-writes an experience that wasn’t full of fat bigotry into one that was chock full of it.

Actual situation:  a multiple time world champion swing dancer takes the floor, everyone is excited to watch him dance because he and his partner are known to be fabulous and entertaining dancers, they are awesome, everyone cheers.

Re-telling:  It’s the middle of the highest division in the competition.  Some fat guy walks out, of course everyone knows that fat people can’t be good dancers so we all assume it must be the drunk beer delivery guy who just stumbled out onto the dance floor because.. no…wait…he’s actually a dancer.  Holy crap, he’s a good dancer. NO FREAKING WAY!  People faint from shock. A truly benevolent person writes it up and posts a video that focuses not on his dancing but on fat bigots’ reactions to it.

Bonus bullshit:  Anyone who complains about this has to deal with people saying “why can’t you just be grateful that they are posting the video?”  Oh, I don’t know, maybe because it’s stereotyping, weight-based bigotry and total bullshit?! But I don’t know, I’m just spitballing here.

Yes, in this society we very often choose our singers, actors, dancers etc. based on their ability to meet a stereotype of beauty first and the ability to sing, act, or dance, a distant second.  Thus, unsurprisingly, almost every singer/actor/dancer is thin and stereotypically beautiful. But we take it to the next level when we allow ourselves to assume that those who are not stereotypically beautiful are not talented.

There are more and more reality shows where people can get 45 seconds to display their talent.  When a fat person risks the stigma, shame and bullying that so often come from just existing in public and go onto one of these shows  and turn out to be good at what they do I think we could live without a million YouTube videos and Facebook posts discussing how absolutely shocking, shocking I tell you, it is that they have talent.

I would like to see a bunch of posts about how shocked people are that they allowed themselves to be lulled into the view that someone who doesn’t fit the cultural stereotype of beauty is without talent.  I would like to see a bunch of comments about how absolutely ridiculous it is that every time a talented fat person gets in the public eye we have to endure people wringing their hands and shrieking about how they are “bad role models” who, they claim even more ridiculously,promote obesity (like people will hear them sing and think – I wish I could sing like that, I guess the first step is to get fat…)

This all leaves me to wonder, how many amazingly talented people are we missing out on as a society?  How many horrible actors and actresses do we suffer through because the industry chooses them for their ability to fit a narrow stereotype of beauty before their ability to act? If we chose singers based on their ability to sing first would auto-tune even exist?

We’re so conditioned to think that talent only comes in a stereotypically beautifully package that we lose it when Susan Boyle stands up and belts out I Dreamed a Dream.  I don’t mean to shock anyone here, but how someone looks has literally nothing to do with their chances of being a good singer, or actress, or dancer, or anything else.  I think it would be just fantastic if we chose people based on their talent and not on their ability to walk a red carpet in a sample size dress, and even more fantastic if we were more shocked at our society’s prejudice than a fat person’s talent.

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Published in: on June 15, 2015 at 8:59 am  Comments (20)  

Kelly Clarkson and the Obesity Epi-Panic

WTF are you doingIn Touch Weekly is not a paragon of ethical, responsible journalism.  But their recent article about Kelly Clarkson is a prime example of the way that the obesity epi-panic plays out everyday in popular media.

Body Positive Click Bait Title

Check. The piece draws you in with a title that is makes it seem like it’s a positive article “Kelly Clarkson is All Smiles – She’s Not Letting Her Weight Critics Bring her Down.”  Good for Kelly Clarkson.

Doctor with no attachment to professionalism or ethics

Check. “Dr. Stuart Fischer — who has never treated the star — estimated she weighs more than 200 pounds. He speculates that she’s gained nearly 100 pounds since her American Idol days.”

Not exactly all the news that’s fit to print, the operative terms here being “never treated”, “estimated”, “speculates”.

Gratuitous before and after picture.

Checkity check.  Ten years ago before she had her baby and when she was not a big star yet and likely under tremendous pressure to suppress her weight, beside a picture from 10 years later, post baby, and based on her responses to her haters in a place where she doesn’t give a crap what people think of her body.

Dire predictions 

Check. “But Dr. Fischer worries that if she doesn’t change her health habits — she may not be around to see River grow up. He says, “Obesity shortens life by 3 to 5 percent.”

Let’s be clear that he is saying that she should “change her health habits” with absolutely zero knowledge of what her current health habits are.  This is reflected in the experiences of countless fat people whose doctors tell us to “eat less and exercise more” without ever asking how much we eat or exercise.  It’s lazy, incompetent, unethical medicine.

Besides that, even if you believe the statistic (and I would love to see the research that led a medical professional – such as he is – to feel ok stating this as if it’s a fact in National media) his math is questionable. Kelly Clarkson is 33 years old. Her daughter, River, is one year old.  The average lifespan for a Female in the US is 82.1 years old (at a record high, even with the so-called “obesity epidemic”) and that’s the lifespan of a female who isn’t super rich with the best of everything at her disposal.  But let’s go with 82.1 years old.  5% of that is 4.1 years.  So instead of dying at 82.1 when her daughter is 49, she would die at 78 years old when her daughter is 45 years old. And that’s the worst case scenario. I wouldn’t classify that as not being around to see her daughter grow up.

But how many times have we heard these dire predictions as if all fat people (and especially fat parents) are going to drop dead tomorrow of chronic being fatness. Predictions that aren’t only not backed by any kind of good research, but aren’t even backed by basic addition and subtraction.

It seems like the title of this article should have been “We can’t get Kelly Clarkson to buy into body size hysteria so we got a doctor to freak out and make shit up.”

I’ve talked about how any article about the science of weight and health is reader beware, but I’m started to think that if we greeted every article about body size and health – from “scientific” reporting to tabloids – by yelling “That’s bullshit!” and clicking on something else, we’d probably be better off (and better educated) than if we read them.

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Published in: on June 13, 2015 at 6:32 am  Comments (18)  

Too Much Public in Our Public Health

A study looked at the public’s willingness to accept legal strategies when it comes to public health interventions found that:

There was much support for strategies that enable people to exercise healthful choices—for example, menu labeling and improving access to nicotine patches—but considerably less for more coercive measures, such as insurance premium surcharges. These findings suggest that the least coercive path will be the smoothest and that support for interventions may be widespread among different social groups. In addition, the findings underscore the need for policy makers to involve the public in decision making, understand the public’s values, and communicate how policy decisions reflect this understanding.

I have a number of concerns around this, but first and foremost I think that we need to be sure that public health is about making information and options available to the public, while taking care not to make the individual’s health the public’s business.  When we reward and punish people for “health”  and “healthy behaviors” we create an environment that ignores the complexities of health, dis/ability, individual circumstances, and individual choices, creating an environment of shame and blame that are the precise opposite of the goals of public health.

It also encourages people to deputize themselves into the “health police” which only serves to exacerbate these issues since, like drivers who think that everyone who drives more slowly is a slow-poke and everyone who drives faster is a danger,  but their driving is perfect, these people tend to suggest that everyone who does more than them is some kind of health nut, everyone who does less than them is lazy and their health practice is “Juuuuuust right.”

The danger of taking a vote on how we treat people in public health is exacerbated when we choose to equate public health with how people look, and can quickly slide down the slippery slope of hypocrisy. Public support for public health measures is not the same thing as evidence-based public health and even if 99.9% of people supported public health policies based on size bigotry, that still wouldn’t make it right. The other questionable premise is the fact that this study, like many others, freely switches out “poor diet and physical inactivity” for “fat” which always brings the scientific rigor of these studies into question.  Body size is not a behavior, or a set of behaviors (and any belief otherwise is just stereotyping), it is not a diagnosis, it is not a disease.  This kind of thinking does a disservice to fat people by promoting weight stigma.  It also does a disservice to thin people suggesting that if you are thin your diet must be “healthy” and you must be doing the “correct” amount of physical activity which is also demonstrably untrue and dangerously misleading.

Public health interventions that are focused on body size are extremely problematic and wholly unnecessary to an actual conversation about public health. We’ve already talked about that. 

I think it’s fine to present people with information (including the evidence to back it up and the limitations thereof) and I think it’s a good thing to work hard to give people access to options like the foods they choose to eat, movement options that are both physically and psychologically safe, and affordable evidence-based healthcare.  I think that we should do that while being fiercely anti-shame in all of our messaging and  remembering that nobody owes anyone else “health” or “healthy habits” by their definition or any other, that health is multi-dimensional, complicated, and not entirely within our control, that the rights to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness are inalienable and not size, health, or healthy habit dependent, that our bodies are our business unless we ask for somebody else’s input, and that nobody is obligated to choose to try for the longest life and public health should be about giving everyone the same access to information and options and then allowing them to make their own choices, not about making the individual’s health the public’s business.

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I’m super excited to share this video with you.  Nobody is obligated to exercise, and being involved in fitness should not be a barometer of worthiness or lead to better treatment. The good fatty/bad fatty dichotomy is bullshit.  So is the fact that fat people who participate in fitness face everything from online bullying, to street harassment, to physical violence.  So the FIt Fatties Forum made this video montage to remind the world that fitness/sports/movement is for Every Body who wants to participate:

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Published in: on June 12, 2015 at 4:01 pm  Comments (7)  

The Healthy Size Lie

What a Load of CrapI was in a waiting room reading a supposed health magazine full of “the best diet tips.”  I started to read them out of morbid curiosity and they spanned the gap from completely disproved, to ridiculous, to patently offensive. One that stuck out at me was “Buy an outfit in your healthiest size and put it on the door for motivation.”

What with the who now?  Your healthiest size?

Of course the idea that there is a “healthy weight” – as if there is some weight at which you will be immortal until hit by a bus – is a ubiquitous myth.  But the idea that you know ahead of time what size clothes you’ll wear when you get to your “healthy weight” adds a charming air of the ludicrous to an already tired myth.

First of all, there are healthy and unhealthy people at every size, so reaching a certain body size can neither be a guarantee of health, nor a sure preventative or cure for health issues.  Body Size and health are two different things and people can, and often do, pursue one without the other.

This comes up sometimes in talks I give and people will tell me “Well, I know that when I’m a size x I’m healthier, my body is happiest at a size x”  When I ask them how they know that they will typically point to a time in their life when they were that size as proof.

Often they say it’s the size they were in high school and that’s when they felt the best they ever felt.  Ok, dude… in high school you were 17 years old – you could eat tupperware and your body would feel great, (10 points for the TV show reference) your body size was probably not the magic ticket to the fact that you felt better and healthier 30 years ago.  And therein lies the problem with this method of “evidence.” It assumes that the only reason someone felt healthier in the past is that their body size was different, and that’s a seriously shaky assumption

Sometimes it’s not high school but a specific time in their lives.  Often if I ask a few questions, people will talk about how their food or movement (or their entire relationship with food or movement) has changed since then, how they are under way more stress now than then, how they hate their body now, how they’ve had four kids since then, how they are treated poorly because of the weight they are at now. All of these things and more can affect health, especially when we are talking about how healthy we subjectively feel/felt.  There’s also the tendency to romanticize the past and that can certainly come into play here.

Regardless, I think that trying to attain a specific body size in a effort to be healthy/healthier is putting a middle man where no middle man needs to be.  I think that the research is pretty clear that, knowing that health is multi-dimensional and not entirely within our control, and not an obligation or barometer of worthiness, if we are interested in pursuing health then healthy habits are the best way to increase our odds for good health, rather than chasing a body size and hoping that we’ll find a bucket of health at the end of the weight loss rainbow.

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Published in: on June 11, 2015 at 8:12 am  Comments (20)  

A Very Good Place to Start

NO Negative Body TalkOne of the most common questions I’m asked is “Where do I start…?”  Sometimes it’s “where do I start to stop hating my body?”  Sometimes it’s “Where do I start to be a Size Acceptance Activst?”  To me one of the best places to start is with our own mouths:  Stop negative body talk, including about your own body.  That alone could start a revolution.

Start by making a decision – I’m going to stop negative body talk, including about my own body.

You can start by interrupting yourself when you think something negative about someone else’s body. You can just stop yourself, you can find something about them that you find beautiful, you can remind yourself that you’ve been conditioned to do this by people looking for profit, privilege and/or control and that you can opt out.  You can do this within your own mind, or go public about it and let people know you’ve taken a pledge to stop negative body talk. You can interrupt other people’s body snarking. You can stop sharing anything on social media that has elements of negative body talk.  You can skip the “Best and Worst Bikini Bodies” articles. It will take time for this to become second nature, so have compassion for yourself while you work on it!

When it comes to your own body, I recommend that you take ten minutes, right now, and make a list of things that your body does for you (breathing, blinking, heartbeat, waste management, smiling, rolling your wheelchair, hugging, texting whatever etc.) Include everything that you can think of. Go ahead, I’ll wait.

Ok so you have your list, now become conscious of the way that you think about your body and start interrupting negative thoughts and replacing them with gratitude for something on the list. It doesn’t have to be an “even exchange” so  if you start to think about how you don’t like part of your body, you can interrupt that thought by thanking your body for breathing or anything else.  If there are things about your body that frustrate you or make you angry, it’s ok to feel that frustration and anger, and it’s also ok to still have gratitude for your body for all of the amazing things that it does do.  It takes practice and commitment, and it takes choosing to remove yourself from the the body hatred that comes standard with life in this culture, so be patient with yourself.  I know for sure that, for me, it was totally worth it.

Think about how different the world would be without body snarking, body hatred, negative body talk, body comparison, and a constant stream of articles criticizing women’s bodies.  How different would our thoughts be if they weren’t clouded with constant negative thoughts about our bodies and negative body comparisons?   How would the world be different if women refused to hate our bodies, or trash each others’ bodies?  I want to find out, what about you?  I think that one place to start is with ourselves, by deciding to stop being part of the system that holds us down.  Will you pledge to stop negative body talk?

NEW FAT AND FITNESS ANTHOLOGY!

I’m super excited to announce that Candice Casas, Courtney Marshall, Jeanette DePatie and I are creating an anthology of stories of fat people in the world of movement/fitness/sports at all levels. You can find all the information for the Call for Proposals here! The deadline for the proposals is July 15th. If you have any questions feel free to e-mail me at ragen at danceswithfat dot org.

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Published in: on June 8, 2015 at 9:48 am  Comments (7)  

Say Something Sunday – Messed Up Media Edition

Say Something SundayIt’s “Say Something Sunday,” a day dedicated, at least on this blog, to personal Size Diversity activism. I did the math and if everyone who views the blog each week did one piece of Size Diversity Activism a week, it would add up to over 1.5 million body positive messages put out into the world this year.  Multiply that times the number of people who might see each of those messages and things start to increase exponentially. To be very clear, nobody is obligated to do activism so if this doesn’t appeal to you that’s totally cool, I’ll be back tomorrow with your regularly scheduled blog post!

Today’s theme is “Messed Up Media” Due to a combination of laziness, lack of scientific literacy, and desperation for eyeballs, The media will print almost anything that anyone says about fat people, making errors from the basic confusion of correlation and causation to ignoring serious issues with study methods, to dangerously bad reporting.  We don’t have to let this go unchecked, we can point out these issues and demand more from reporters. Today’s activism challenge is to leave comments on articles that talk about fat and health, the “obesity epidemic” etc. and to ask questions to reporters who engage in scientifically questionable reporting.

If you want to do more of this kind of thing, consider joining the Rolls Not Trolls group on Facebook, it’s a group created for the specific purpose of putting body positive things in body negative spaces on the internet and supporting each other while we do that.  It’s a secret group so if you want to join just message me on facebook (I’m Ragen Chastain)

Have a great Say Something Sunday!

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Published in: on June 7, 2015 at 5:00 pm  Comments (2)  

Are Fat Kids Doing Worse In School?

grade on curveAngela Meadows wrote a piece for The Conversation called “Why do heavier children do worse at school? It’s not their fault.” The piece takes a critical look at the research that suggests that larger students fare worse in schools, and the oft-drawn conclusion that if it’s true it must be directly attributable to the student’s fat.

I’ll let the article stand on its own.  What I want to talk about are the comments and the ridiculous lengths that people will go to in order to defend the idea that if research says that a negative outcome is more common in fat people, then it must be caused by our fat.  I wrote recently about the things the people often overlook, often with disastrous consequences, in research like this. But this isn’t about people overlooking it, this is about people sticking their fingers in their ears, yelling LALALALALA and ignoring it on purpose.

The piece suggests that things like low teacher expectations due to size bigotry, and the stress of the bullying, shame, stigma and oppression that come from being at the losing end of a war on childhood obesity, could be the root cause of larger students performing more poorly (if, in fact, they do.)

But our society’s pathological need for fat to be the cause of everything bad, and for shaming fat people to be anything from a lighthearted past-time to a brave and laudable act of social good. but certainly never something that harms fat people, means that the comments include suggestions like:

Maybe it is that fatter children and students don’t do things in an energetic manner.

Might it not be simply that students who are heavier exercise less and so deprive their bodies and their brains of the many benefits which physical activity is know to bring?

all teachers know healthier, fitter children tend to achieve more – those who carry too much weight are more lethargic and are slower to respond.

I think that the third one is illustrative of the problem with the first two “All teachers know [insert stereotype about fat students]”  First of all, any time we are saying “Everyone knows” and following it up with a stereotype about a group of people  we’re headed down a bad path.  When we are talking about fat kids, we are talking about a group of people who can face tremendous and ceaseless stigma and shaming – bullying from classmates, bigotry of students, teachers who look at them and “know” they will be “are more lethargic and are slower to respond,” gym teachers who “know” that they are un-athletic and disinterested in sports – who purposefully or accidentally kill any interest fat students have in movement or sports, coaches who assume fat kids aren’t athletic and so fail to give them the attention thin kids get, a world that tells them every day in so many ways that their bodies are wrong and bad, that they should be ashamed of themselves, that they deserve the poor treatment that they get because they aren’t thin, and that the only solution for the oppression is to fight their own bodies, while bowing and scraping to thank their oppressors.

So even if those three comments were true, the root cause could still very well be the stereotyping, shaming, stigmatizing, bullying, and oppression that those kids face. All things that we could stop immediately with absolutely no negative effects. And since people’s efforts to make kids thin is ending in kids with higher weights and higher rates of eating disorders (and since there’s no non-stigmatizing way to say “I’m working so that in a generation nobody who looks like you exists”) it seems like society might have to trade in the cheap high of “fighting childhood obesity”  if we ever want to do something that has a chance of actually helping kids be happier or healthier.  So we might all want to start a war on the poor treatment of fat kids, rather than continue to fight a war against them.

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Published in: on June 5, 2015 at 10:21 am  Comments (22)  

Fox News Host Andrea Tantaros Spreads the Body Shame

Picture courtesy of the fabulous Jodee Rose http://jodee.deviantart.com

Picture courtesy of the fabulous Jodee Rose http://jodee.deviantart.com

After the controversy surrounding Protein World’s body shaming ads, they found a defender in Fox News host Andrea Tantaros who said:

“At this time of year, anyone with a functioning brain asks themselves that question, ‘Are you beach body ready? In fact, I ask myself that question every single day. And I bet you people who have a problem with this ad going into summer time are not beach body ready.”

So Andrea has chosen a worldview wherein only people who look a certain way should be seen on beaches, and in which every single day she asks herself if she looks “good enough,” if she will get approval from strangers if she wears a bathing suit to the beach.  I would never want to worry about strangers approval of my body at all, let alone every single day.

But I celebrate her right to choose that for herself because, unlike Ms. Tantaros, I understand that (setting aside the layers of ableism embedded in the suggestion people who think differently than she does don’t have functioning brains) people are allowed to make personal choices with which I disagree, including being desperate for the approval of their bodies by strangers.

So I’m not asking Ms. Tantaros to change, if she wants to ask herself if strangers will find her fuckable every hour on the hour, that’s her prerogative. I am going continue to fight the system that says that women should base our value on whether or not whoever shows up at a beach at the same time we do approves of how we look in a bathing suit, or whether we meet the current stereotype of beauty (which, being rooted in pictures of people who have been massively digitally retouched is actually impossible.)

I think that one of the ways we can help dismantle this whole “beach body bullshit” is by simply not buying into it. If we don’t care what the beach body police think of us, if we’re at the pool, the lake, the river, the ocean not giving a shit, then the people who judge us lose their power.

So I’m going to continue to be very clear that if I have a body, a beach, and a suit, then you bet your sweet bippy that I’m beach body ready. I’m going to continue to provide support for people struggling to feel comfortable in bathing suits, and anyone who has a problem with that is kindly invited to look the other way, and/or fuck right the hell off.

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Published in: on June 2, 2015 at 1:05 pm  Comments (18)